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A few congregations, however, have continued their participatory heritage, and there appears to be a growing interest among others to return to active involvement. Spiritual beliefs can be readily honored while providing emotional support in such closeness
The Jewish Burial Society in Chicago offers members the opportunity to have a traditional Jewish funeral for about $1,400.00 (excluding the grave plot). This includes ritual washing and caring for the deceased, a hand-sewn burial shroud, simple wooden casket, prayer books, candles, acknowledgment cards and the services of a licensed funeral director who has agreed to participate. This group has taken the stressful "arrangement conference" scene, where consumers may be pressured by the funeral home to buy all sorts of merchandise and services they may not want, and formally brought back the temple as the entity in charge.
Muslim tradition invokes the active participation of those who knew the deceased. In Toronto and Pittsburgh, local mosques took over the funeral preparations for members when they found their area funeral homes refused to accommodate their needs. Ritual washing of the body, and wrapping in a kafan (layers of white cloth) precede the quiet funeral procession to the cemetery, where the wrapped body (preferably without a casket or burial vault) is laid with the head of the deceased oriented toward Mecca.
Christian teaching encourages church and family involvement. From the Catholic Order of Christian Funerals: "In the celebration of the funeral rites, the family members should be encouraged to take an active part. In [areas] where an undertaker carries out the preparation and transfer of the body, the pastor and other ministers are to ensure the undertaker appreciates the values and beliefs of the Christian Community. The family and friends of the deceased should not be excluded from taking part in the services sometimes provided by the undertakers, for example, the preparation and laying out of the body. Funeral rites should be celebrated in an atmosphere of simple beauty, in a setting that encourages participation."
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How do you start? Finding a core of interested people is the first step. Then your group will need to decide on the level of help it can offer and the amount of time and work volunteers can provide. Will your group offer a free funeral, assisting the family in handling arrangements entirely without the help of a funeral director? What about during work hours? Or will you need to approach a mortician who won't feel threatened by sharing at least some tasks with others.
The following list of tasks and services may help you decide your degree of involvement:
- procure the death certificate and burial-transit permit
- transport the body
- supply a simple wood or cardboard casket
- provide a cloth "pall" for the casket (to diminish "show" and emphasize that we are all equal in death)
- bathe and prepare the body
- shelter and care for the body before final disposition or sit with the family as they do so
- provide for the family's needs, including childcare, food preparation, cleaning, answer phones, etc.
- notify and help others close to the family; pick up relatives at the airport; offer a guest room to travelers
- participate in the service
- dig the grave by hand
- establish a "scattering garden" on church or temple grounds for cremated remains; establish a cemetery if you don't already have one
- offer workshops on end-of-life issue
- maintain a registry of funeral plans
- conduct price surveys of area funeral homes, crematories, and cemeteries if you do not have a Funeral Consumers Alliance in your area
Whether your group takes on all aspects of a funeral or just a few, all who participate will find that it is an opportunity to serve others in a loving way and as a meaningful expression of their faith.
Source: funerals.org
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